Fight Club makes use of a variety of other “tools” in a similar vein to S.E.L.F.Ph. A portion of a few of the more commonly used ones are listed below. Please make sure to reach out to a Fight Club leader to get a copy of each tool in its completed state and how to best understand how to best it. Our Contact Us form is a great way to make that connection.
Build Your Custom Fight Club Trained Battle Plan
A Fight Club battle plan makes use of concepts, principles, ideals, and strategies derived from God’s Word and shared from more senior members to newer members to help them grow their relationships and faith while defending against the Enemy’s attacks. Regardless of whether you are dealing with a separation, divorce, marital discontent, or even a new relationship, a battle plan will help you deal with the Enemy’s attacks.
For we are not fighting against flesh-and-blood enemies, but against evil rulers and authorities of the unseen world, against mighty powers in this dark world, and against evil spirits in the heavenly places. (Ephesians 6:12 NLT)
__________________________ ‘s Personal Battle Plan
This is how I get to know my God, know my Savior, know my heart, and know my challenges.
This is how I plan to grow my faith, grow my strengths, and grow my relationships.
These are the top 15 challenges for me to meet, actions for me to take (or avoid), wisdom for me to internalize, and opportunities for me to heal, grow, and lead. When building the plan, make sure to consider the following:
- Why did all my previous plans fail and cause me to end up here?
- Why does our God want His plan for me to succeed?
- Is my new plan built around, and off of, God’s plan for me and those around me?
- Does my plan take into account the impact on the people God has placed around me?
- Why does our enemy want me to fail in my plan?
- What are my next steps to work my plan?
- Who do I need to increase my regular contact with to work my plan?
- What should be the priority of these steps of my new plan?
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This is how I… ______________________________________________________________________________________
The Path of the Boomerang
Over the years, Fight Club has noticed that during challenging times in our marital relationship, our spouse will probably travel like a boomerang, and our relationship with them will ebb and flow in a somewhat predictable fashion. The path of the boomerang tool is designed to help us come to grips with forgiveness, grace, and patience. If you are experiencing challenges in your relationships, consider the following:
- What things have caused this to occur in your relationship?
- How much forgiveness will you experience while they are travelling away from you?
- How much forgiveness will you have left as they are returning to you?
- Where will you be when they come back?
- How long are you willing to wait?
- What does God have to say about all of this?
Parable of the Prodigal Son : “When he came to his senses...I will set out and go back ... I have sinned against heaven and against you...So he got up and went... (Luke 15:11-32 NIV)
My Situation is Out of Whack! (complete all that apply to you)
Usually it’s not just one relationship that is a struggle for us; it could be more than one relationship at risk or causing the risks; or trouble at work, the lack of work, or too much work; or with our health, or an additiction to alcohol, drugs, porn; or financial issues. Any or all of these things can start the cascade of chaos in our hearts and minds. It can make things go Out of Whack! Working to identify start of our issues can take some time and reflection with a couselor, pastor, and brothers in Christ. The template below can help drive discussion around each.
- Relationship With _______________________________
- Financial Concern _______________________________
- Health Issue _____________________________________
- My Job __________________________________________
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When completing the statements above, be sure to consider them in the light of UCLA basketball coach John Wooden’s quote: “If you get caught up in things over which you have no control, it will adversely affect those things over which you have control.”
Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. Not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid. (John 14:27 ESV)