When we in Fight Club say, “we are working on ourself”, we don’t mean our self, we mean our S.E.L.F.Ph. So what does that mean? S.E.L.F.Ph. is one of the primary tools we teach in Fight Club. We believe that when consistently worked, S.E.L.F.Ph. can constantly improve your ability to lead and love in the manner God calls you. S.E.L.F.Ph. can help regardless of if you’re dealing with a separation, divorce, marital discontent, or even a new relationship. S.E.L.F.Ph. is a set of personal life tools that you can use to improve and guide how you interact with others. Pairing it with our meeting’s distinctive mixture of Christian support group, Bible study, and community building can amplify it’s impact. Working on your S.E.L.F.Ph. can give you a purpose and can be a focus for your passions.
In Fight Club we define S.E.L.F.Ph. as:
S.piritually
Grow and share your new or next level of connection with Christ. We are all called to be closer to God and to share that closeness with the people God places in our lives. This spiritualness should be led by our constant and active prayer life, our diving into His Word, and engaging with His people. To lift us up spiritually and to grow His wisdom in us. Then as we continue to grow closer to Christ, we are called to share that wisdom and spirituality with others; this is known as Discipleship and is something Jesus instructed us all to do (Matt. 28:19).
But grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. To him be glory both now and forever! Amen. (2 Peter 3:18 NIV)
E.motionally
Humanity can either succumb to our emotions and let them carry us away, or we can use them as a barometer to help us draw closer to God. In Fight Club we believe that God requires us to do the second rather than the first. The Bible gives us some guidelines:
- Take your mind captive, giving your problems to God.
- You cannot be a slave to fear or the World
- Be a servant of Christ and your Brothers and Sisters.
- Trust the Lord with your burdens and struggles as he will replace them with his light and manageable yoke.
- Do not let your anger and frustrations with others drive your actions and thoughts…love your enemies.
We are destroying arguments and all arrogance raised against the knowledge of God, and we are taking every thought captive to the obedience of Christ, (2 Corinthians 10:5 NASB)
L.ovingly
Jesus said that the greatest commandments are firstly loving God, and secondly love your neighbor as yourself. Therefore, since God is love we we need to learn to love like Christ. Many men struggle to understand what that looks like in our modern world and struggle to show love when things get hard. We need to learn how to improve our ablity to speak only loving things to those who are in our lives. In many cases, we need to learn how to choose to love a difficult person or situation…embrace the porcupine. We also need to learn why we are often hard to love because we can be one of those difficult people and can cause difficult situations. In Fight Club we often focus on how to be more loving when things around us are difficult, and how to be more lovable when we create the difficulties.
This is my commandment: Love each other in the same way I have loved you. (John 15:12 NLT)
F.inancially
At times life’s circumstances can be financially challenging. If we are being honest with ourselves, we can all be more judicious and responsive with the resources that God gives us. In Fight Club we recommend that there are some things that we need to consider while we are deep in the battle with the enemy.
- Go no further into debt
- Simplify your life
- Don’t choose to try a new job or business venture at this time
- Continue earn, save and give as you have
- Do not make any new investments
- Speak only positive things about your job and finances, God says words have power.
Keep your life free from love of money, and be content with what you have, for he has said, “I will never leave you nor forsake you.” (Hebrews 13:5 ESV)
Ph.ysically
Taking care of our body is a vital part of keeping our mind, spirit and emotions healthy. It is also important that we show love and respect to the temple that God has provided us for our time on this earth. For many of us, when times are hard we can tend to neglect our physical and mental health. Some of us have been neglecting our health for quite a while. To that end, we in Fight Club believe that we all need to find ways stay motivated to take good care of our physical and mental selves. Some things that we may need to work on include:
- Eating right
- Getting regular exercise
- Getting plenty of sleep
- Regularly seeing a doctor, dentist and Chistian counselor
- Becoming willing to fast
Don’t you realize that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself, (1 Corinthians 6:19 NLT)
If S.E.L.F.Ph. grabbed your attention and you want to know more, you can click this link to learn about some other tools that Fight Club uses of in our meetings. You can also complete our Contact Us form to speak with one of our leaders.